When we’re apart and talk on the phone, we have amazing conversations and discuss a future together. But when we’re together, we don’t talk as much, and he never mentions a future together.
I’m confused. Is this normal for relationships? I don’t want to stay in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere, and it has been like this since pretty early on. How can I know if I should invest more of my time or if I should end it and move on? – PERPLEXED IN VIRGINIA
DEAR PERPLEXED: If neither of you is particularly talkative and there are a lot of distractions when you are together, then it’s normal. When you are apart, it’s possible that you miss – and idealize – each other, which is why those conversations about a future happen. The way to determine whether you should invest more time in this relationship would be to ASK him, and just as plainly as you addressed that question to me.
DEAR ABBY: Could you please print this on behalf of delivery people everywhere? Folks: Please make sure your address is visible from the street.
I can’t tell you how many times I have had to drive up and down a street trying to figure out which house I’m supposed to deliver to. Sometimes, I can see the number on the curb. But many times, it’s impossible to spot – and I deliver during the day. I can only begin to imagine how hard it is for couriers who deliver at night. So do us a favor. Make sure your house number is visible from the street. – WENDY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR WENDY: I’m glad you wrote. People in your profession are not the only ones who struggle with this problem. I have also heard from fire and emergency personnel complaining about the same issue when the situation wasn’t just inconvenient, but life-threatening. Readers, please take a moment to walk to the curb and see if your street address is visible. Fixing the problem could be as simple as trimming some bushes.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been arguing over whether food must be covered while it’s being heated in the microwave. I always cover it because it takes little effort and prevents splatters. He refuses, unless the food is very saucy or greasy. When I ask why he won’t do it, he has no answer.
It would be one thing if he routinely cleaned the microwave, but he never does, leaving me to do it. This has caused shouting matches between us. How can we settle this, short of throwing away the microwave? – UNCOVERED OUT WEST
DEAR UNCOVERED: Do not toss out a perfectly good microwave over this issue. Praise your husband when he covers the saucy/greasy foods, and remember to throw a paper towel over his dinner when he “forgets.”
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.