Many unanswered questions to a sad reality are often hard to understand and even harder with which to cope. The first response when life happens unexpectedly is pain. The situation hurts so deeply leaving a void and helplessness feeling.
There is often pain for those who are affected by the circumstance and pain for their own loss.
In 1 Samuel 30:4, we see David in an unexpected situation that brought much pain. “David and his men burst out in loud wails – wept and wept until they were exhausted with weeping.”
I am sure David was devastated, thinking about what his family must be going through at that very moment, knowing he could do nothing to help them immediately and his own pain for his separation from those he loved. He, at that point, could only hope the faith he lived was remembered and intact in the lives of his family during this separation.
When the enemy captures the mindset of an individual, separation from others is always present. Their thinking can become clouded as to who to trust, who’s right, who’s wrong, who cares and who doesn’t. Grief is a very real part of the process when death, divorce and estranged children happen in life. There is a grieving time…and it is necessary before an action plan can be set forth.
Allow yourself time to grieve, but do not remain in your grief. Pain causes us to face the truth of our situation and this can be difficult, but it is necessary before the healing can begin and motivation can be restored.
Exhaustion will usually set in when the grieving process is lengthy, especially when the circumstances continue to be a challenge or even unfixable. We must remember, no matter what the circumstances, God is still in control. God still loves you; He still loves your children, and He still has the ability to bring good out of your situation.
You see, it is often a trust issue. When the pain is so real, we can easily forget who’s in charge and has already orchestrated a plan to bring peace in the situation.
Furthermore, when we are trying to do God’s job and not letting him control, we delay the solution and deplete our strength. We were never meant to be towers of strength void of emotion.
“You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the one most dear to you,” Matthew 5:4.
Although you may not feel blessed in any way, you still hold the ability to feel peace in your situation. It is often through tragedy that we see love abound as others pull together. This often opens our eyes to how much love exists in opposition to one evil.
Be encouraged when the unexpected happens. It gives opportunity for a greater expectation to come about. Prayers go out to the hurting in the most recent tragedy in Las Vegas.
Ann Haney is a mother to six entrepreneurial-minded children, ordained minister, CEO of Aaron Publishing, founder of Ann Haney Ministries and Living In Abundance, nationwide motivational speaker, coupon specialist, empowerment coach and bestselling author of 20 published products, including her books, “Judgment Overruled,” “Exploding Into Successful Entrepreneurship,” “Single Steps In A Married World” and “Changing Your Life Through Couponing Financial Empowerment Series.” Ann Haney ministry’s vision is helping women know the root of their challenge and deliver them from the death grip it holds on their life by surfacing their inner beauty and confidence, helping young people discover their God-given purpose and pursue it with passion, helping men and women learn to use the resources available to them to overcome their circumstances and helping those recovering from life’s choices and challenges receive second chances without condemnation. Contact Ann at [email protected] to schedule a speaking engagement, individual coaching or view her website for more information at annhaney.com.