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Life in the Golden Years: Lessons in life

Linda Alessi • Updated Sep 16, 2017 at 4:00 PM

Most of us have reached an age where we have made decisions to do or not do, act or not act, in a particular manner. All through our lives, we have made our choices.  Sometimes, much thought is given to the path we should take. 

It seems to me, the path is pretty much mapped out, even if is not recognized at the time. Life changes constantly, whether we are actively involved or not.  

Then, out of the blue, fate takes it out of our hands and conducts it on a course we would not ordinarily take. We are caught up in the flow, and ultimately we are moved along in the stream of life. On the way, we may experience things we never sought after or would pursue. What wondrous things are possible and happen much to our surprise.

Most times, things happen for a reason, and in the midst of it all, we look askance and question why. Think back and remember when an unfortunate event seemed devastating at the time, and upon reflection, we came to an epiphany where this occurrence opened doors to another experience that was beneficial or enlightening to us.

There are times we are unaware or tend not to notice the effect people or circumstances have on us. If we look closely, we may recognize the reasons people come into our lives and make a difference.  

We all have had losses we have sustained, and sometimes it seemed we would never survive. But we do. Sometimes, these losses are the means to our discovery of another aspect of life that has had tremendous lessons we learn.

The life around us can be noisy and disruptive, but is so important to stop and listen and be aware. The cacophony is distracting, but do not let it deny you from recognizing what is truly going on around you.

It is in the silence we find the answers and peace we all desire. Look and see the ones you love as they are, not as we want them to be. Accept each other as the unique specimens created equally but differently. Revel in the differences, and learn from each other.

Growing older has afforded me the luxury of looking back, and I appreciate how much I have learned about others, about life but especially about me. I am growing older and I hope wiser. I realize how much I did not know, but I am still willing to learn. It is never too late.

Linda Alessi is a contributing columnist writing about life beyond the younger years.

 

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